For a narrative overview, see home. For the story in order, see timeline.

Index

Spine

  • home — the front door, with the 2013→2026 timeline visual.
  • timeline — the whole story in chronological order.
  • love-in-the-margins — the relationship’s real signature: cheerful, relentless teamwork.
  • restaurants — every table worth remembering, 2013→now, with maps.
  • things-you-said — thirteen years of the best one-liners and exchanges.
  • forty-things — forty of her best lines, numbered, for the fortieth.
  • by-the-numbers — 246,868 messages, counted and charted.
  • before-we-met — her first 27 years, in her own told-to-Alex words.
  • then-and-now — photo pairs, eleven years apart.

People

  • kathryn — filmmaker; the other half of the thread since April 2013.
  • alex — London → San Francisco → Cyprus; the steady hand.
  • zoe-and-toto — the twins (b. 17 Oct 2020).
  • the-wheelers — Kathryn’s family: Peter, Susan, the sisters.
  • ioulita — Alex’s half-sister; Nicosia artist-curator, the twins’ arty aunt.
  • the-soasians — her SOAS friends; the chosen-family reunion trips.
  • the-toumazis — Alex’s paternal family (father Tonis, stepmother Dena, half-sisters, Dora village).
  • francesca — Alex’s mother, “grandma Skeets,” in Fasoula with Igor.
  • charlies-posse — the San Francisco / Yelp crew.
  • january-birthday-trips — Alex’s UK/tech friends and their annual January reunion.
  • peter — her father (d. Nov 2025).

Life & threads

  • the-menagerie — the cats and dogs: Billy, Jesse, Louka, Remy.
  • kids-say — the things Zoe and Toto came out with.
  • alex-birthday — May 14, and the “it’s my birthday in Cyprus first” running joke.
  • kat-birthday — 25 July, thirteen times: every birthday in the record.
  • babysitters-club — the family network who help raise the twins.
  • heritage — the twins’ school years in Limassol: the best-friend saga (William, the leavers, Michael & Anassa), Spring Shows, teachers.
  • posse-thanksgiving — the SF crew’s group Thanksgiving (the porchetta tradition).

Travels

Places

  • london — where you met; the early-2013 dates; later the family base.
  • washington-dc — Kathryn’s world in the long-distance years; Al Jazeera.
  • san-francisco — where the distance closed; married life in Marin.
  • cyprus — Alex’s homeland; the wedding; the home you built.
  • lamu — the Wheelers’ Kenyan coast; Charlotte’s wedding; Peter’s funeral.
  • devenish-grange — the Wheeler family house near Ascot (“DG”).

Events & milestones

Dates (for cards & surprises)

  • 21 Sep — wedding anniversary (2019). · 17 Oct — twins’ birthday (2020). · 14 May — Alex’s birthday. · 25 July — Kat’s birthday.

Sources

  • whatsapp-archive — the WhatsApp thread, 2013–2026.
  • imessage-archive — the iMessage thread, 2013–2026 (the larger corpus).
  • facebook-archive — Facebook export; the named, dated photo albums.
  • messenger-archive — the COMPLETE Messenger 1:1, 221k msgs, May 2013→2024 (the earliest, richest record).
  • groups-archive — the 85 Messenger group chats: the crews, families, trips and party threads.

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